Integrity, Honesty & Zero Bullshit

If you were to ask me what my three top values are, it would be integrity, honesty, and just being upfront with people. Nothing makes me more mad than somebody that doesn’t have the courage to say what is on their mind. If they fucked up or if they make a decision, they need to stand on business.

And here’s the thing: if you can be real with me—whether we like each other or not—I’ll always respect you.

I don’t know—maybe it’s just me getting older—but it blows my mind how many grown-ass people still can’t act like actual adults. You don’t like me? Tell me. You don’t like somebody else? Tell them, don’t tell me. It’s a simple concept. Most adults can handle what you need to say, but they can’t handle you hiding, lying, or acting like it never happened.

And then when we run into each other you say “hello, how’s it going” with everything fake inside of you? Nah. Miss me with that shit.

No-Bullshit Rules of Engagement 🚫

Rule #1: If you fucked up, say it.

Don’t dance around it. Don’t send 47 excuses in an email. Just admit it. “Yeah, I dropped the ball.” Boom. Done. We move forward. You’ll get way more respect for owning your shit than you ever will trying to cover it up.

👉“If you can’t own a mistake, go apply for witness protection, because clearly you love hiding.”

Rule #2: Don’t tell me what you want to say to someone else.

If you’ve got beef with Taylor, take it to Taylor. Think Jordan dropped the ball? Tell Jordan. Venting to me just makes me the unwilling FedEx delivery guy for your drama.

👉“If you can’t deliver your own message, maybe stick to ordering Starbucks mobile pickup. At least the barista can spell ‘coward’ on your cup.”

Rule #3: If you’ve got something to say, say it to my face.

Not through some passive-aggressive “per my last email” bullshit. And definitely not by “accidentally” bringing it up in a group so you don’t have to take the heat.

👉“If confrontation makes you sweat, congratulations—you’re not allergic, you’re just spineless.”

Rule #4: Stop with the fake pleasantries.

If we’re not cool, then don’t hit me with the “Hey girllll, how’s everything going?” like we’re besties at brunch. Just nod, wave, and keep it moving.

👉“If your smile is faker than a Kardashian ass, do us both a favor and don’t bother.”

Rule #5: Respect is currency.

You don’t have to like me. Hell, I don’t have to like you either. But if we show up with honesty and respect, we can at least get shit done.

👉“Respect is free. Fake is expensive. And trust me, you can’t afford the interest.”

Here’s the truth: life would be a hell of a lot less messy if people just grew the fuck up and stood on business. Honesty isn’t complicated—it’s just rare.

Because at the end of the day, I’d rather be unapologetically real than politely fake.

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