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  • Writer's pictureCaitlin Lewis

Why Adult Friendships Feel Like Rocket Science Compared to Teenage BFFs

Remember the good old days when making friends was as simple as sharing a snack during recess or sitting next to someone new in class? The best teenage friendships – when bonding over the latest song that just dropped or school gossip was effortless. Fast forward to adulthood, and suddenly, building friendships feels like trying to assemble IKEA furniture without the instructions.

As teens, we had endless hours to hang out after school, during weekends, and over long summer breaks. But as adults, time is a scarce resource. Between demanding jobs, family responsibilities, and the quest for "me time," finding the hours to nurture friendships can be challenging. Scheduling a simple coffee date often feels like negotiating a high-stakes business deal.

In our teenage years, we all shared common experiences - exams, crushes, and daydreams about the future..But fast forward to adulthood, and we're all on our own unique rollercoaster rides. Picture this: a badass friend conquering the business world, another knee-deep in diapers, and a third one globe-trotting. Navigating through various adventures can sometimes pose a challenge when trying to connect and reminisce about those "remember when" moments!

Teenagers are generally more open and willing to share their thoughts and feelings, creating deeper bonds more quickly. As adults, we often build emotional walls, protecting ourselves from potential hurt. This makes forming close friendships a slower and more cautious process. It’s not that adults don’t want to be vulnerable; it’s just that past experiences have taught us to be more guarded.

In the enchanted realm of youth, bonds blossom like wildflowers with minimal effort. Meeting your squad every school day felt like destiny! But fast forward to adulthood? It's like wrangling cats, with friends spread all over the map. Balancing work and love, darting between cities, keeping friendships alive turns into a daring mission impossible. Spontaneous hangouts make way for meticulously planned friend rendezvous.

Adult friendships are like fine wine - they get better with time and effort. Embrace the challenge, and remember - the best friendships can come around in the most unexpected corners! If a friendship doesn't work out, it's fine to move on, recognizing that the person played a significant role in a particular phase of your life, but may not be the right friend for you at the moment.

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